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Biblioteca Rebeca

Read Oscar Wilde to your kids ( also Ole Hertz and Michael Ende )

If I may be so bold, the fact that someone's pre-literate child loved such and such book does not qualify as a recommendation.  I don't think I've ever read my kids a book that they would later claim to dislike, since kids like stories and like having stories read to them.  So a kid liked a book. Big deal! 

In high school, my friend Leah would only ask Dianne whether a party that we had both attended was any good. "Why don't you ask me about it?" I would whine.  "I was there!"

"Oh Rebeca, you always think everything is fun.  I want to know whether it was a good party or not, not whether you thought it was good.  I already know the answer to that."

Kids being read to are like high-school-me at a party: since they like everything, their judgment can't be trusted.  The real question is, did the adult whose literacy was pressed into service like the book?  In most cases, I wager, they didn't, or don't know whether they did because they weren't really paying attention. 

What makes a good children's book, for me, is one that I can read many times without feeling like I have to tune out and think of other things just to cope with the banality.  Curious George is, I gather, considered a classic, but personally, I can't stomach it.  I don't even care about the colonialism glorification aspects, I just find the stories completely hollow and tedious. Book burning is out of vogue, but I long for a roaring fire whenever the Deetman demands a reading of anything starring the curious little monkey, or any character originally conceived by Disney inc., or Bob the Builder. 

But there are plenty of children's authors whose work doesn't make me feel that I need to find my happy place.  I love James Herriot's farm animal stories,  Ian Falconer's Olivia series, anything by Shel Silverstein or Beatrix Potter, and my current favourite, which is maybe a bit surprising for the under-four set, Oscar Wilde.

Happyprincecover In the beginning of this century, my friend Denise had a book website called "Stomp of Approval".  I won a draw and she sent me The Happy Prince and Other Stories.  When Rara was three and four we read them at bedtime, over and over again.  They are perfectly constructed little tales that are just challenging enough in length and theme to gently tax a small child's mind while keeping their interest.  I'm starting to read them to Deetman now. I typically get teary at least once in each story, twice in The Selfish Giant.

A little bit longer, and slightly more challenging in languge and content, is The Canterville Ghost, which I would classify as a novella, but which is officially a short story.  I see here that it has been adapted into graphic form.  Based on the review, I don't think I'll bother hunting down a copy.  We've been disappointed by graphic adaptations in general and the reviewer's comment that "it ends up just being a series of dull panels loosely tied together, more reportage than actual prose and certainly nothing like the gorgeous Wildean prose" could easily apply also to Graphic Shakespeare's Macbeth.  Except for the Wildean part. 

Cantervilleghostcover  I read the Lisbeth Zwerger-illustrated version of The Canterville Ghost to my kids and the pictures were gorgeous and hilarious.  Tobias raised his eyebrows when he saw what I had chosen as a bedtiime story.  Deetman has been waking up occasionally due to bad dreams and Tobias thought a ghost story was ill-advised.  I said I'd play it by ear and after a few pages, realised that the book's scare factor hovers near zero.  The laugh factor is high, though some of the jokes may be too subtle for teeny kids.  Deetman got his cues from his sister, and as she was holding her belly half the time, he never got scared and laughed along with us, even if he wasn't entirely sure what was so funny.

 The Tobias series by Danish author Ole Hertz is also a pleasure, rather than a chore, to read to Deetman.  I found Tobias Catches Trout at the library last year, fell in love, and ordered  the full series of four Tobias books for Christmas.  We read them all on Boxing Day and then modelled Deetman's birthday celebration ( on December 27th ) on Hertz's description of a traditional Greenlandic child's birthday in Tobias Has a Birthday.  Guests arrive and sit in one room eating cake and drinking coffee.  Once everyone has finished their second cup, the hostess announces "You may now smoke" and the group moves to another room to do this, making way for the second shift of guests, who sit down in the now-vacated cake and coffee room.  This type of time-limited socialisation is highly appealing to me, since I often think that if I could only guarantee that dinner guests would leave at nine o'clock, I would host dinner parties much more frequently.

My favourite thing about the Tobias  books is the incredibly simple, highly evocative art: line drawings with watercolour highlights.  O to draw like that.  The text consists of very clear, plain descriptions ( translated by Danish-American writer Tobi Tobias, I kid you not ) of activities in the life of 12-year-old Tobias of Greenland.  Two of the books contain maps of his settlement. Maps in a book make me swoon.  My Tobias took one look at Tobias TobiascatchestroutcoverGoes Seal-Hunting when it arrived in the mail and said "Oh  now I get why you ordered these.  This is right up your alley."  He's right.  The combination of a northern theme, descriptions of domestic life, skillful art, and maps ( swoon ) is exactly the kind of thing I like.

Since Rara doesn't require me to read books to her anymore, I am a less obsessed about the quality of books she reads.  I suggest things and pick up things from the library for her, but she can and should read what she likes and I would never criticise something she's into.  As a result, we have a lot of J.K. Rowling around the house.  

From time to time I still do read to her at bedtime as well.  It's terribly inefficient, since she reads at approximately double my silent speed and five times my read-aloud speed, but it's cosy and lovely, so I like to do it.  Recently we've enjoyed Momo by Michael Ende, Little Women and Good Wives by Louisa May Alcott, and The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery.  Inevitably we get to a point in the book where she can't stand it anymore, tears it from my hands and finishes it off on her own.  Then, if I want to know what I missed, I have to read it on my own time.  

July 04, 2009 in Books, Housewifery and Mothering, M'hijo, my baby, Sahsez, my first born | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)

M'hijo's "Cusp of Spring" photo shoot

There are certain people who only read this blog in the hopes of getting a little M'hijo fix.  Certain people (who shall remain nameless) who forced me to move all my boring food talk into an entirely separate blog!  And who would doubtless like me to move all tae kwon-do talk elsewhere as well. 

For those people, I present a slew of photos I took of M'hijo yesterday at Sahsez' school and in our study.  Enjoy!

March 13, 2007 in M'hijo, my baby | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)

Every age has its challenges

While listening to the CBC radio coverage of the N. Korea nuclear disarmament deal...

ME:
Hmm, that's good news

SAHSEZ:
What is?

ME:
That progress is being made in dismantling the North Korea nuclear arms system

SAHSEZ:
Like bombs?

ME:
Yup.

SAHSEZ:
I hate bombs.

ME:

Me too.

Continue reading "Every age has its challenges" »

February 14, 2007 in Housewifery and Mothering, M'hijo, my baby, Sahsez, my first born | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)

Last-minute documentation panic

I realized an hour ago that I have no documents for M'hijo.  He doesn't have a birth certificate or a social insurance number.  He has a CareCard (universal health care that he's never used), but this is not a valid form of identification since it doesn't show citizenship or custody. 

Since we leave for a four-week roadtrip in the US in two days, this realization caused me to freak out.  After some rapid web research, it became clear that there is no way that we could get that kid across the border without papers, unless we did as Sahsez suggested and hid him in the wheel well.

My favourite thing to do when faced with an untenable situation like this own is to foist responsibility onto the strong, broad shoulders of my husband,  who, as luck would have it, works just a block from the Vital Statistics office! 

He got it all sorted with a rush order on a birth certificate for M'hijo, which will cost us forty bucks more than the usual price of a birth certificate.  So I guess we are now paying for my renegade attitude back in February when I decided not to order a birth certificate for M'hijo, since I couldn't see the point of it and resented having to shell out for something like that. 

September 28, 2006 in M'hijo, my baby, Travel | Permalink | TrackBack (0)

Roadtrip Looms

This morning I finally wrote the note to Sahsez' new teacher, letting her know that Sahsez won't be in school for four weeks in October.  I've been avoiding doing this, because I am afraid that the teacher will chastise me for pulling her out of school for such a long time.  Indeed, I chastise myself for doing so.  It seemed like such a good idea last year, in grade one, but somehow now it feels like grade two is too important to miss.  The thing is, she missed practically all of October last year as well, because the teachers were on strike, and part of me wants to put that in the note, but really, that is crossing the  boundary into the major snarky bitchy zone, where I try not to reside. 

Anyway, we'll see what the reaction is.  Regardless of what it is, I don't think I'll take Sahsez out of school for such a long time ever again.  A week might be okay, but a month is pushing it.  We do take schooling seriously around here, despite outward appearances (lateness, lack of parent initials in daily agenda, forms returned unpromptly, PAC meetings unattended). 

Other than that, I guess I am excited to get on the road.  I mean, it sort of feels like I will be doing the same thing (looking after M'hijo, trying to amuse Sahsez) but in a more constrained environment and with less resources.  Yay vacation.

But this lack of enthusiasm is inexcusable!  What about Whole Foods?  What about the Grape Stomp that Sahsez and I signed up for?  What about the beauty of Taos?  What about Sauvie Island?  What about the thrill of the espresso map?  What about Disneyland, for heaven's sake?

Yes, we are going to see and do some really fun stuff.  I just hope and pray and dream that M'hijo will not make us regret the day he was born by being a bad traveler.  My queendom for a good traveler.  Please oh please. 

September 19, 2006 in M'hijo, my baby, Sahsez, my first born, Travel | Permalink | Comments (2) | TrackBack (0)

On the Move

Mhijo_on_the_move3 This weekend, M'hijo really started moving in earnest.  Before, he could move across a room, sure, if you gave him half an hour to do it.  But on Saturday morning, he saw something he wanted on the other side of the living room, and was there in about fifteen seconds.  He doesn't crawl exactly, but instead uses a foot and two arms to push himself along.  The other leg stays folded underneath him.  Bit of a burden really; he'd do better with just the one leg. 

Mhijo_on_the_move So, Saturday afternoon we went out and got a gate for the stairs, and on Sunday we did a good clean of most of the house.  Still, there are a few things we didn't count on.  For example, we didn't count on him scooting across the kitchen floor while no one was watching and downing half a bowl of Friskas before I found him.

Still, I think if I remember to close the doors to the bedrooms, the study and the bathroom, and start putting the cat's bowl on top of the dishwasher when she's not actually eating, and remember to replace the outlet covers when I unplug something from an electrical socket, and hound Sahsez to pick up all the little tiny pieces of Playmobil after she plays, and keep the baby gate intact, and close all the kitchen cupboards firmly, we should be okay.

Mhijo_on_the_move2 What makes it so worth it is seeing how proud he is of himself.  He's been even more cheerful than usual since he became his own man. 

September 18, 2006 in M'hijo, my baby | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)

A whole new kind of grumpy

M'hijo was cutting a tooth yesterday (his third) and was awake for 13 hours straight.  This is unprecedented.  Even on his worst napping days prior to this, he's at least taken a couple of twenty-minuters, giving me a chance to catch my breath!  On top of not wanting to sleep, he didn't want to eat anything, which meant he was nursing a lot.  Not a good day for mama.

The way I was feeling at 4:30 yesterday, as I stubbornly took a long shower while he cried in his crib, made me realize how tenuous my sanity is.  I ain't no superwoman.  Housewife extraordinaire, yes, but superwoman, no.  I rely heavily on:

  • regular naps for M'hijo
  • a helpful and understanding Sahsez
  • a helpful and understanding Tobias
  • having Abu available a lot of the time for breaks (especially great when he wants attention and we want to have a nice, peaceful dinner) and to look after him while Sahsez and I go to Tae Kwon-Do

Remove any one of these things and I morph into Bitchmother (TM Ayun Halliday) in a matter of moments. 

Today, Tobias' mom Marg is picking up Sahsez for some back-to-school shopping, M'hijo is already down for his first nap (after waking up at 5:45!  A morning person!  Oh JOY!), and the house is relatively clean.  I hope this means that today is going to be a bit easier than yesterday.  I might even manage to finish my morning pages, which I left off 2/3 of the way through this morning to have coffee with Tobias before he left for work.

August 22, 2006 in Housewifery and Mothering, M'hijo, my baby | Permalink | TrackBack (0)

Outdoorsman

Outdoorsman M'hijo is a pretty cheerful baby, but there are times when he gets cranky for no reason.  Lately he's
been doing a less traumatic version of the witching hour.  When he was a newborn, he got
inexplicably cranky at around 4pm every day, or was it 5?  I can't remember exactly but he would
get very upset and need total attention from me, handily just when I should have been getting
dinner together! 

The last couple of weeks he's been doing the same thing, on a smaller scale (newborns are
way more dramatic) and the only thing for it is to take him outside.  Nothing you can do inside,
short of maybe reading him some books or nursing him, is going to appease.  But if I take him
out of doors, he's immediately happy.  He'll sit on the grass and coo and contemplate the universe
forever.  When he was younger I worried about him eating grass and sucking on sticks, but now I don't.

Even if he does munch down the odd blade, he doesn't choke on anything anymore, so I'm not
concerned. 

The great thing about this is that it gives me time to water and do some gardening every day. 
My mom says "That boy is a good Mexican" about his fascination with running water.  I don't know
what this has to do with his Mexican heritage, but I'll take it! 

If I'm wrapped up with inside activities, I might not get around to watering or deadheading, or
weeding, or what have you, every day, especially in August, but with M'hijo insisting on going outside
in the late afternoon, I get to putter to my heart's content. 

August 21, 2006 in M'hijo, my baby, My garden | Permalink | TrackBack (0)

Exhausted

All this week I am doing some very high-energy music activities with 80 kids at a daycamp at my church each morning.  Basically, I'm a performing monkey for two half-hour sessions.  It's surprising how much planning and headache and energy goes into just 30 minutes of singing.  It's difficult because the kids range in age from two to 11, and it's hard to keep them all engaged for that whole time.  Actually, "engaged" is a bit ambitious.  If they're not climbing the walls, I consider that a success.   

Oh, how I long for the times of old, when children would sit still and listen and learn.  Instead of, for example, lying on the floor, running around, and heckling me. 

Afterward, I get to go home and take care of my own kids for the rest of the day.  Today, this left me completely fagged. 

Tonight, I will not stay up late burning CDs for every child in the camp.  Instead, I will go to sleep at ten pm.  Maybe even nine.  Then maybe tomorrow I won't be dead on my feet at 3pm.

Oh, and also, I finally took M'hijo for his first shots, which he should have had when he was eight weeks old.  Oops.  It will take three visits over the next three months to get him caught up. 

Today, he got two in each leg.  He cried a little and fussed, but really, with the size of those legs, it's like bees stinging the Hulk.  It didn't take long for him to recover, and then he even smiled at the nurse who had performed the vicious deed. 

July 31, 2006 in M'hijo, my baby, Music, Religion | Permalink | TrackBack (0)

M'hijo's Tips for Babies: Keeping Tabs on Mama

Square_mh2 Babies, it's 4:30 am. Do you know where your mama is? 

You may think she's just in the other room, asleep in bed with Daddy, but CAN YOU BE SURE?  Of course you can.  Just follow my instructions and you'll be certain to know where your mama is at any time of the day or night. 

Step one: Well, obviously, you've got to make sure you wake yourself up during the night in order to keep tabs on mama.  Sure, it might be nice to sleep six, seven, or eight hours, but that's a luxury diligent babies can't afford.  We need to be vigilant!  So, wake up!

Step two: Now that you're awake, it's time to make a little noise.  It doesn't have to be a full-fledged wail YET, just some babbling, or maybe a little of that rather annoying moaning sound that sounds a bit like a whale. 

Step three:  You may already have a visual on mama at this point and if so, skip to step five.  If not, it's time to take it up a notch.  How loud you want to go is up to you, but feel free to wail, scream, and shout if necessary.  Personally, I don't find that I need to take it that far, but then I've got my mama on a pretty short leash. 

Step four:  Now mama should definitely be in visual range.  She may be making reassuring sounds, patting your body, rubbing your head, or she may have even picked you up.  How to proceed from here is really an individual choice.  Do you feel comforted by a visual identification?  Is a little cooing and patting enough for you?  If so, well, I guess you can go back to sleep at this point but some babies, and I definitely place myself in this category, really enjoy the complete surety of what is known as the Milk Test.  Basically, you need a little taste of mama's milk to be completely certain that she is, indeed, your mama.

In order to get mama to subject herself to the Milk Test, it's necessary to fuss a little.  If she's picked you up, squirm in her arms.  Say "Unh, unh!"  Wrinkle your brow.  Shake your head from side to side.  If she hasn't even picked you up yet, just keep up the wailing from step three until she does and then start kicking.  You can take the rather extreme step of digging your nails into her arm, but this is a little coarse and rather unseemly for gentlebabies, so I try to avoid it if at all possible.

Square_mh Step five: Mama has now either brought you into the study and settled into the laz-y-boy for the Milk Test, or, if she's feeling tired, she's brought you onto the bottom bunk of your sister's bed, set up the Milk Test and is now trying to get back to sleep herself.  By all means let her sleep while you conduct the test if you wish. But if you're in the mood, it's okay to move around or make little noises to prevent her from sleeping.  She's too tired at this point to get annoyed, so you basically can kick her belly as much as you want and nothing much will happen.  Once the Milk Test is completed, and you feel certain that yes, that is your mama, and not some vile impostor, it's time for a little nap.  How long of a nap is again, an individual choice, and mine range from 10 minutes to four hours.  Just know that whatever you do, it's fine.  You're a baby, and you're the boss.  Don't let mama forget it. 

July 30, 2006 in M'hijo, my baby | Permalink | TrackBack (0)

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